Dadvice: Be Proactive.

Having a baby adds a whole new list of to-dos to your wife’s day and to yours. But don’t just sit back and wait for things to get checked off the list. Jump right in and be the first one to figure out the best way to soothe your little one at night, or the easiest way to clean the baby bottles. And even though you can’t breast feed your baby, you can take over for some daddy-baby bonding time afterwards. Soon enough you’ll be doing other great proactive dad stuff like reading bedtime stories and signing up to coach Little League.


 “The attitude you have as a parent is what your kids will learn from more than what you tell them. They don’t remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are.”

-Jim Henson 

Dadvice: Sacrifice your time and embrace your new routine.

Giving up a few (or many) things is perhaps the most obvious, fundamental rule in being an awesome dad. Without sacrificing your time, you wouldn’t be able to pull off all of the other keys to becoming great. You trade in your relaxing after-work “zone-out time” for “zone-in time” with your wife and baby, but the key to giving up your time isn’t as simple as just being there– it’s a matter of making yourself as involved as possible while you are there.

The Do’s & Don’ts of Fathers Day!

Things your dad doesn’t want.

1) Skinny Jeans

2) Another tie

3) Thrift shop ironic t-shirts

4) A free copy of Vice Magazine where you were featured in the “Don’ts” section

5) Skrillix – or any dubstep for that matter because it all sounds like transformers having sex

6) The deodorant you don’t use

7) Velocity rims for his bike

8) Your “art.” He pays for your liberal arts degree, don’t rub it in his face

9) Handmade Jorts

10) Free coffee from the coffee shop you work at

Things your dad does want.

1) You start paying your own rent

2) Give him back his SLR film camera

3) Give him back his bike

4) Admit he’s way more badass than you’ll ever be.

Dadvice: 7 Tips for New Dads. 

1. You’ll sometimes think you made a huge mistake.

It’s normal every now and then to secretly wonder why you ever had a kid in the first place. Forgive yourself these occasional moments of self-doubt and, from time to time, let yourself mourn your pre-parenthood life. These moments will be short-lived.

2. Babies + Travel = Not the mess you’d expect.

Most people are intimidated by the idea of boarding a plane with an infant, but this is, in fact, the best time to hit the road. At three months old, a bottle or boob is all that’s required to keep them entertained. They have few needs and fewer opinions, so there’s no difference (for them) between Cozumel and Cleveland. Go get a tan while you still can.

3. Buy a rechargeable, cordless hand vacuum.

Much of your time will be spent getting things off the floor. At first, it will be all manner of bodily fluids, but soon enough, you’re going to be dealing with everything from Cheerios to banana slices. Later, the list will grow to include things like glitter, dirt, forgotten bacon and pretty much anything that can be shredded by small hands. And the clunky upright is too annoying to drag out four times a day.

4. It’s perfectly acceptable to make an entire dinner in the microwave. That’s it.

5. Act like a grown-up.

One of the most heartbreaking sights is that of a parent and their young child in a shouting match trying to see who can out-tantrum the other. Children are an endless source of joy, but only when they’re not being an endless source of frustration. Breathe deeply and never let yourself escalate to the level of irrational fury that your little one occasionally inhabits. A two-year-old has the right to act like a child; you do not.

6. Accept all offers to babysit. Repeatedly.

There’s a weird lag time between when a child is ready to be left with someone (which is pretty much once they can bottle-feed or go four hours between nursing) and when the parents are ready to leave them (which is often much later). Fatigue and frustration are cumulative, and you need a break long before you realize you need one. Your wife may (or may not) protest, but do your best to talk her into letting you take her out on a brief date. Everything looks more manageable and more joyful after a good meal and a glass of wine.

7. Hand-me-downs are more than okay.

Not only are secondhand baby things easier on the wallet and the environment, it’s a lot less agonizing when you find yourself on the fourth outfit of a craptastic kind of day (which, trust me, you will).

8. Make time for the other relationships in your life.

Not only is it important for your child to know there’s more to the world than you catering to their every need, but you’re also teaching them a very important lesson about what it means to have a full, loving life. Seeing you in the role of good friend or devoted spouse is a way for your kids to learn what it means to actually be a good friend or devoted spouse.

9. There’s no such thing as using too many wipes.

There’s no prize for using every last corner of a towelette, and it’s shockingly difficult to get the smell of baby crap off your hands. At three cents per sheet, everybody’s hygiene and gag reflex are well-served by the generous and preemptive use of wipes.

10. You’re not the “backup parent.” You’re a father.

You’re a full, equal partner in turning a small, fragile sack of fluid and bones into a loving, decent, healthy citizen of the Universe. Never let the fact that other people aren’t sure what to do with a man between conception and Little League fool you into thinking that you’re anything less than critical to every step of the process. Be informed, aggressively involved and as in love as you’re capable of letting yourself be.